Category Archives: Love and healing

How to get into your zen…….

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Are you afraid that you don’t meet the criteria to achieve spirituality?

Worried that it takes time, money, and effort to achieve peaceful inner-being and connection to source?

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Spirituality and all things zen seem to be increasingly separatist and elitist or something you have to pay for or be a member of a group or follow a guru….
You have the Answer. Just get quiet enough to hear it. ~Pat Obuchowski

You have the Answer. Just get quiet enough to hear it. ~Pat Obuchowski

Whispered dreams by artist Josephine Wall

Might I suggest some simple ways to tap into that state of being and contentment?

Firstly it would be amiss of me to not mention finding
a state of love.
Think of all that you are grateful for
today and in your life.
Watch nature all around you.
Feel the weather.
Feel how amazing it is to be alive right now,
And all that is going on in your body in every second
Feel love….

 

 

1 Play with your children; I mean play like you are a kid… Get lost in a child’s mind.

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2 Garden, tend to your plants, or sit at one with nature and all its alive stillness.
This plaque was in my Granny Rae's garden

This plaque was in my Granny Rae’s garden


3 Listen to uplifting music.
Call me odd but I love uplifting trance dance music!

 

4 Be creative – whatever that may be; for me it’s writing and cooking.


5 Play a musical instrument.


6 Get moving in the great outdoors; be it walking, hiking, biking, sailing, running and so on…

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7 Spend time really present with your loved one.
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8 Spend time with animals.
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9 Take a power nap and ask to connect to your inner wisdom.
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10 Visit a church; it doesn’t matter what religion it is or you are.
I visited a church last night at 9 pm just for peace and clarity. I’m not strongly religious however churches have calm peaceful loving energy ( wrap warm!)For those not great at switching off watch an inspiring and uplifting movie.That’s not a stretch too far for any of us!!!

Love

Andrea

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How to Love an Empath

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Last night my love shared a wonderful article with me that blew me away; he gets me. Wow.

I have struggled a life time feeling pain in relationships as well as feeling lost and misunderstood. Many times in relationships I have been accused of not loving; of being distant, and told that I cannot be who I am. I had to hide, change, hold back and protect myself. Big walls went up and it seemed that although I could love the world and feel every heart beat right through me, I couldn’t allow love to reach my heart for fear of another wound. In my past so many times I questioned how could someone who says they love me  understand so little about me and my giant heart? It baffled me; and they hurt me and after so much hurt and pain well you learn to expect it. And in the height of the confusion I lost myself.

So I finally left the relationships that hurt me; in fact I don’t think I could have felt much closer to the bottom before I then embarked on a journey to find myself.

When you find yourself and become all that you are; well then you realise that it is indeed safe to walk the path of being all love and feelings; you become ok being a highly sensitive empath. BUT….. it doesn’t come without tests in trust. It is easy to become love and light when you are alone; the true tests begin when someone wants to love you.

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I am finally learning to trust that there is unconditional love out there and this time that there is no hurt. I can slowly relearn trust. I can let down walls, and release fears…I could do none of this without the love and support of my love. He is a very special man; and he sees me.

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So if you are an empath; hang in there. I will add more to this blog when I have time but I wanted to share the wonderful words written by Ben for his love Rachel on her blog site . Not only do I find his words so truly wonderful and important for the loves of every empath but I also as an empath can feel his deep deep love for Rachel; beautiful.

I don’t know you Ben; but thank you.

I wanted to share the article that my love read and shared with me as it may help others. I will expand this blog and add my own comments in the near future. I didn’t want to forget this one or fail to share it; so here it is for now.

Tips for living with an empath 101 (as told by Ben)

For the complete article please click into Rachel’s blog

1) Understand that often it’s not you.  Part of the gift (and curse) of an empath is that more stuff gets through to him/her than a typical person.

2) Be consistent.  Empaths can, at times pick up on some pretty nasty energy…. and you may need to reassure them that things are ok.

3) Be patient with yourself and them.

4) Be honest! This is a huge one.

5) Be understanding and take a proactive approach.

6) Be a good friend! Empaths can appreciate honesty. However, they cannot handle being ignored.

7) Understand what makes them special, and use that in a positive way.

8) An empath tends to take life very seriously. Plan something fun, and try to get him/her to loosen up. Make them laugh!

9) Be aware of the benefits of having an empath in your life.  In him/her, you will find a loyal friend who will love you unconditionally.

Please also read this poem to your love; Allow me to Fly

I also found this article today from elephant journal and I wanted to share the wonderful poem written by Rebecca Lammersen

To Love An Empath

By Rebecca Lammersen

 

 I’m all feelings, that’s it.
Lit with emotions that just won’t quit.
I wish,
I wish I could turn them off with a switch,
But that’s not an option,
Till I’m buried in a ditch.

 

There’s always a trade to be made,
Every decision keeps me saved.
Sometimes it causes strife,
Cause I refuse to cut the emotions outta my life.

 

My dream would be,
To express all and be received,
Yet no one wants to love the girl who seems dis-eased.
You’re not deceived,
So stop believing the lies you feed.
You must understand,
I’ve been freed.

 

Sometimes I question how to get by,
But I’ll never give up,
I’ll continue to try.
Every time I dive into my head,
I can’t seem to make it heard or said.
See, the feelings keep dripping from my heart,
Cause it’s the only way I know to live my art.

 

Forced to hide inside my mind.
It’s torture in here,
The joy, the sadness just won’t disappear.

 

You ask me to shut it down,
Cause then I can’t make a sound,
So I don’t disturb you and your ground.
But I can’t, I won’t.

 

Either love me fully or let me go.
I don’t have time to be a ghost.
I took off the sheet when I realized,
It’s the only way to stay alive.

 

Next time I cry,
Next time I scream
Hold me close,
Please don’t leave.
Just keep me open,
So I can bleed.

 

This is how to love the life I lead.

With love,

Andrea

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For my love

PS three wonderful resources; all authors also have helpful and insightful webpages to provide further support:

“if they don’t help you glow, then let them go…” quote by JEFF BROWN

If you would like to chat to me more should you be struggling then please do contact me. Although I am not perfectly ‘there’ I have experienced and navigated a lot in life. I understand and I will do my all to help you understand such that life feels free and wonderful; and no longer painful.

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For those empaths in the world the greatest hurt is the confusion, not the emotions.
If your loved one is a highly sensitive person trust their strength in always being honest. It’s when emotional walls are felt and the truth is held back that crushes their heart more.
Worse still lies as they will know.

If the sensitive intuitive person can teach us one thing it’s that honesty is honourable and that no matter how intense things may feel emotions cannot hurt us.

Love Andrea

My promise to my love

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When we fall in love with someone we want to protect our loved one from harm and never ever let them experience pain again. However to do so is to stifle their own path and growth. So in light of all this and my thoughts around how it is that to love is to empower; I put my thoughts into a pen and paper and allowed them to flow.

As is typical for me, this contemplation is an extension of my own life; with the desire to help all to trust in love and life and the beautiful flow of the universe as she supports you on your journey.

My promise to my love:

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Love with abandon…

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“Love in your mind produces love in your life. This is the meaning of Heaven.”
― Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love

There is no remedy for love but to love more.”
 – Henry David Thoreau

When it comes to love why is it that moving fast and certainty creates doubt in others? People say thread cautiously, prepare for the worst, keep your eyes open; don’t jump in too fast. ….

And yet if you were offered the job of a lifetime the other side of the planet they would say leap; leap far fast.

Funny that because you are far more likely to get chewed up and spat out by a big multinational than a person who just wants to care for you…

One thing is certain when it comes to making choices of the heart life certainly will show up your doubts when you allow the negatives to fester.

So is it wrong to jump in?
Or is jumping in the only way that you can get in?

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What love means….

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As an intro it always tests me to share my personal writings. So why do I? Well if what I learn in life as I navigate this path can reach and touch others and help just one person then it is all so worth it. Enjoy…

In the past weeks life has crossed my path with G. A wonderful man who I cannot even justify an attempt to put into descriptive words as our journey is only beginning. And it is the journey that I have felt in my soul for a long time now so when that special person walks into your life with the intention of stepping on that same path with you, and holding your hand to keep you steady; well all I can say is that is truly does create wonder in my whole being at the beauty of this life.

I have always been feisty; deep deep down it is the essence of who I am: a feisty, determined, strong woman (god help him I hear you say!). I have a powerful sense of purpose, fuelled by passion and when I lost my connection with myself, there was always the feeling of there being ‘something more’ that guided me back; more worth, more love, more meaning, more purpose and when life felt all too much that feeling of ‘there are more reasons to why I am here’ made every tear bearable, every step manageable, and every choice for change achievable.

Please promise to love and accept yourself in every moment of your path this far. It is not a case of locking the past in a closet of shame but more so appreciating and being grateful for all that it taught you and for embracing that  part of your past that makes you who you have now become.

Fear teaches you love.
Anxiety shows you direction.
Tears cleanse pain.
Pain identifies that which is not for you.
Loneliness adds bravery to your steps.
Depression gives you time for pause; make it temporary.
Anger identifies your fuel for passion; use it wisely.
Sadness shows you the inner child inside awaiting for you to love and forgive.
Envy highlights that which you may wish to empower in your own life.
Feeling scared often shows you that leaping now is absolutely possible.
Frustration leads to a path more certain.

And meltdown, illness, and fatigue are the most certain signposts  that you could ever ask for to start making choices in new directions.

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Allow me to Fly….

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Dedicated to all the amazing sensitive persons navigating life and love in this world…….

 

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There is a free spirit in me
That runs where only wild horses go.

 

A wisdom in me
That flows with the knowledge of time.

 

A seeing in me that goes beyond
The eagle high in the sky.

 

A strength of character
More powerful that the lion guarding his pride.

 

A depth
that reaches beyond worlds, time, and dimensions.

 

A loving heart purer
Than the first beats of a first-born in a mother’s arms.

 

My presence is ever with you like a gentle breeze in the
starry night
But allow me to fly.

 

Allow me to heal my wounds and fly once more…………

 

Allow me to be the me that goes beyond the pain I have felt in my life, the colour spectrum of deep emotions that scar my heart, the let-downs, the love thrown at me with agenda, the loneliness and the fast beating fear I have felt in moments alone. I nurture these experiences and choose to grow.

 

Allow me to fly, high;
For I will always return.

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Feathery Friends by Josephine Wall

Love

Andrea

 

Be an example of Peace

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Weep for the World – artist Josephine Wall

There is so much injustice in the wars raging today and the innocent casualties resulting daily from the conflicts.

There is so little truth told to us watching from afar due to the manipulation of the media and hidden agendas.

We are agitated and angry at injustices, rattled beyond understanding about the innocent lives, the lies, the incessant pain inflicted from one culture on another. How can people justify the loss of life or trade any human life for a Belief or War or any form of Ethnic cleansing? No belief system in my understanding should condemn life…….. No desire to be RIGHT can be justified by death or suffering………

We want justice, we want to shine a light on those doing wrong and fix it.

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War hurts my heart…

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I sat outside the holiday home
Under the moonlight tonight.
The wind is whipping through the trees fairly dramatically pulling in changeable weather after the hot sunny day. It’s cool on my toasted shoulders.When you sit still and feel
The wind in the trees and the waves crashing onto the beach
it is hard not to feel part of something truly wondrous.
To feel loved, blessed and so very grateful.Yet today 4 children were shot in Gaza.
A Malaysian airliner went down killing 290 people – terrorism or military driven.
And I read of a dog hung by his collar from a bridge in the UK.
Every day murders, rape, theft, violence, deceit.I don’t understand this world.How can one not see the beauty in everything around us and not feel grateful?
The preciousness of life; so transient.
How animals and nature supports us in every moment.
How are people so blind?
Blind to hurtful words and actions?

Even those of us who think we are doing better wash suds down the sink and dispose of the undisposible in the trash can where it sits in landfills longer than a lifetime.
Toxic products, chemicals, words – our planet had had enough.

I feel sad – I can do so much more.
I feel so small.
My heart so overwhelmed.

Yet all it takes is small steps; small steps every day in every way that one can.

A heart fire fuelling the vision of a better world.
Belief in arms dropping their weapons and instead embracing loved ones.
Sectarian and religious violence questioning why did it all begin? Why does it continue?
Man against man, man against woman, man against child. How?
What are we fighting for?
To see that every death is a death of person, a soul, one of our own….
Belief that the day will come when a man sees the soul in the eyes of his enemy
and just sees a man…

Soul to soul there should never be war.

What if…..

Each of us truly lead by example to the best of our ability.
Being mindful of all judgement, all thoughts of better than,
all comparisons,  religious dogma, and belief systems.
To think before we make assumptions, criticisms and speak cruel words…

What if…..
WE become accountable in every action and inaction.
To the max of our skills
and teach our children and parents to see all as one
to see every person as here trying to live life to the best of their capacity
and that it is ok to be different and to have different beliefs

Such is the colour of life and the path

What if…..

We promise to give our all?
Surely this matters?
And that being pure love in thought and deed,
And forgiving and moving forward,
Can start a revolution of actions and solutions………..
peace

Josephine Wall artist

Love Andrea

 

Baby Steps my Friend….

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By Andrea Cullen

 

Baby Steps ….

 

Take gentle steps my Dear,
When the giant leaps
Surround your heart with fear.

 

The days it feels too much
And no one is there to hold your heart safe
Remember that you ARE love.
No Question; you are PURE love.

 

So thread softly, gently, sweetly, my Dear.

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Smile;
Share your smile.
Set out to find laughter in your day and
Feel intrigued at who the universe
Will connect you to today.
What animals will greet your path.
What trees will wind whisper gentle nudges of
encouragement and wisdom,
What corners will trap the warm sun’s rays.

 

Pay attention!

 

Do a good deed and watch them multiply.
Feel your heart; it’s huge right?!
What you give will return one-thousand-fold.

 

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Trust in this space;
The universe is plotting your love story.
Your Path of Greatness.
A trail that only you can mark out
With all that you are.

 

So trust my Dear
That you are held safe.
And one gentle footstep forward today
May be just the perfect distance for Your Journey.

 

Maybe tomorrow or next week is the Day for dramatic leaps….

 

Who knows?

 

Even super heroes take days off.

 

xx

Andrea

 

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No Greater Force than Love…

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What is this force that is driving our planets people towards change?
What is this feeling within that tastes like the first bite of freedom before the revolution?
When EVERYTHING will change in our world as we know it.

 

This inner force feels as fragile as a butterflies wings and as mighty as a dragons fire.
A gift that is precious in the heart of love and devastating in the grips of egomaniacal and power-hungry hands.
You can sense both sides within…..

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A reminder always of how human we are.

 

And then I remember the starving children
Women with no rights
Animals used as cosmetics testing disposables or killed alive to adorn a women in fur…

 

Abuse, rape and the suppression of human freedom
Children losing their childhood in a sweatshop
to clothe our incessant appetite for fashion….

 

I see the destruction of earth’s most precious resources
The rape of our rainforests, mountains, oceans, and lands.
We have forgotten how to live symbiotically with the land
and are blind to that destroyed for gain.

 

Towers belch toxins
Rivers flow poisoned
Lands are too toxic to support life
Wildlife washes up on our shores and life suffocates in our rivers.

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Cruelty, persecution, racism, and the painful divisions of religion fuel wars
GREED numbs conscience
Mankind turns a blind eye to truth.
And yet

 

There is a force within
And I KNOW this butterfly in my heart
holds a LIONS roar.

 

My voice is understood by every tongue as it speaks heart
My love is infinite and reaches everything truly alive
My desire for change so palpable it resuscitates sleeping hearts.

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Where there is love
Hope grows

Where hope grows
Faith is unshakeable

This feeling within
IS THE CHANGE

Love,

Andrea

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MAHATMA GANDHI ON LOVE
“Like the bee gathering honey from the different flowers, the wise person accepts the essence of the different scriptures and sees only the good in all religions.
When in despair I remember that all through history the way of truth and love has always won; there have been tyrants and murderers, and for a time they can seem invincible, but in the end they always fall.
Fear and love are contradictory terms. Love is reckless in giving away, oblivious as to what it gets in return. Love wrestles with the world as with the self and ultimately gains mastery over all other feelings.
My daily experience, as of those who are working with me, is that every problem lends itself to solution if we are determined to make the law of truth and non-violence the law of life. For truth and non-violence are, to me, faces of the same coin.
The law of love will work, just as the law of gravitation will work, whether we accept it or not.
Just as a scientist will work wonders out of various applications of the law of nature, even so a man who applies the law of love with scientific precision can work greater wonders….
Hate the sin and not the sinner is a precept which though easy enough to understand is rarely practiced, and that is why the poison of hatred spreads in the world.
Nonviolence and cowardice are contradictory terms. Nonviolence is the greatest virtue, cowardice the greatest vice. Nonviolence springs from love, cowardice from hate. Nonviolence always suffers, cowardice would always inflict suffering. Perfect nonviolence is the highest bravery. Nonviolent conduct is never demoralizing, cowardice always is.
Destruction is not the law of humans. Man lives freely only by his readiness to die, if need be, at the hands of his brother, never by killing him.
Every murder or other injury, no matter for what cause, committed or inflicted on another is a crime against humanity.
Man’s nature is not essentially evil. Brute nature has been known to yield to the influence of love. You must never despair of human nature.It is the law of love that rules mankind.
Had violence, i.e. hate, ruled us we should have become extinct long ago. And yet, the tragedy of it is that the so-called civilized men and nations conduct themselves as if the basis of society was violence.
Power is of two kinds. One is obtained by the fear of punishment and the other by acts of love. Power based on love is a thousand times more effective and permanent then the one derived from fear of punishment.
Whether humanity will consciously follow the law of love, I do not know. But that need not disturb me. The law will work just as the law of gravitation works, whether we accept it or not.
The person who discovered the law of love was a far greater scientist than any of our modern scientists. Only our explorations have not gone far enough and so it is not possible for everyone to see all its workings.
“Through the Heart we may come to know the Love of God; through the Heart we may become the Love of God. “
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