Stress is the trip switch….

When stress goes up, often many of us play this out in food and diet.

 

We get a little bit more controlling, a little/ lot bit more judgemental and hard on ourselves, we set harder goals for weight and performance based on well… punishment and many of us feel a little more unsure in our bodies. the stress battle play out in the worst of internal battles… invisible to almost everyone in your circle except the most intuitive.

for the purpose of us being open, honest and supportive for one another… if it feels right. How do you manage this and rein it in? how did you move forwards… what advice would you give?

When all form of control and certainty leaves us and overwhelm sneaks up; we often subconsciously start to control in other areas. It is human nature.

With practice we can become better to catch ourselves, laugh it off with ‘here I go again’ and quickly shift focus to exploring, learning and growing more positive life skills and strategies.

Me? I am not ashamed to say that I did have my struggles (in the past). It makes me real and helps me to understand other people’s struggles and obsessions and quirks. Sometimes I forget about it all as I have pushed it all back into the past; I tend to forget the level of anxiety that lived with me permanently, and the control and neurosis. It was, I realise now, all a coping skill. I guess it good to forget but I don’t want to either so that I know how it feels for others.

So how did I manage to recover from a serious eating disorder and hours and hours of forced exercise?… I just fought and looked forward to knowing a place of peace had to be at the end of the desire to be better balanced and healthy. I made small change after change to pull things into better balance; I wrote a journal and in it listed all my dreams for the life that I wanted…. all these little dreams, goals and changes add up, they all start to make a difference.

Please know that it is possible to get to a better place if you want to and set that intention and keep reminding yourself of why it matters and that you can. Don’t be too hard on yourself it can take time; and it is a journey and you can and are doing it.

Never quit on yourself; the breakthrough may be just around the corner.

Here are some tips based on what I find to be helpful when I start to self-judge and self-sabotage.

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Anxiety in the Christmas frenzy

Anxious?

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Our world is a very “feeling it big” place right now. Every time I get into the car or go to a shop or anywhere there are people I can barely breathe with the anxiety I’m feeling. Try as I might even I am struggling to ground myself when I sense the anxiety of the world; my head is exploding, I am on edge and I cannot sleep that well.

There is no doubt a lot going on between Christmas shopping mayhem, Syria, assassinations, plane hijackings, and terrorism attacks. It feels wrong to write them all in the same sentence but the truth is we feel them all, and it is impossible to untangle what we sense when we are bombarded by them all.

I do enough in my day to manage these moments; my me time, my time with my love, getting outdoors for a run or getting a good swim or bike session in, taking a long bath, allowing myself to take a moment of peace in the shower, being totally present with my clients, writing my journal or making my tree and flower essence is sufficient in my day to make the more uncomfortable moments manageable.

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Years ago I would have really struggled with this. Anxiety feels awful. My brain is scatty, my heart is racing, I cannot ground myself. I completely empathize with you if you are feeling anxious.

Sleep is off for many of you, it’s like the world is spinning on its pillow worrying. Little things like financial pressure or worry about the presents and things to do fills people’s heads – we are all connected and the more sensitive of you will feel it.

Anger, frustration, and fatigue are all taken out on others and the roads are like the battle ground. Even driving where normally I find peace and quiet in a silent commute is now thick with anxiety as I drive towards places where there are people.

Firstly…these are first world problems.

Get a bit of perspective. It’s not all about us. How lucky we are to have these problems!

Secondly consider that the anxiety may not be yours.

You may be feeling the frenzy, the pressures or simply the volumes of people.

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Similarly things the other side of our reality like Syria, Germany, Russia and more are hitting our senses somehow in the invisible ( we can just feel it) and via the media outlets. Fear, anger, separation….and devastation fill our world.

What to do? Own it. Take responsibility for the anxiety. Shift your perspective, have compassion for people, avoid the peak rush hours, take breaks, get into a quiet space, ask what’s urgent and what’s not. Don’t lash out and pass your anxiety onto others especially family, eat well and don’t miss meals, watch your coffee and alcohol intake. Magnesium can help, a bath or shower also. I make plant and tree essences to provide support. Many other strategies like aromatherapy and music help too.

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Lastly create balance….where can you do good? Or infuse a smile and happiness into the world. If you are feeling it, it’s because you can somewhat change it.

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Know that you are in charge of this.

Breathe.

Be grateful. Look outside yourself…

Love you all. Here to chat if you need.

Andrea

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PS this is the beautiful tree overlooking the stone circles at Grange

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