Do not do what doesn’t sit right with your personal and financial boundaries this Christmas – people are losing all form of balance and perspective and putting themselves under immense pressure.
This comes at a cost to our emotional wellbeing and to our relationships.
Love, connection, time resting and spent making happy memories…. that is what it is all about.
Spend a moment and look at how you shining a positive message can make a difference for others. Give something from your heart this festive season.
When stress goes up, often many of us play this out in food and diet.
We get a little bit more controlling, a little/ lot bit more judgemental and hard on ourselves, we set harder goals for weight and performance based on well… punishment and many of us feel a little more unsure in our bodies. the stress battle play out in the worst of internal battles… invisible to almost everyone in your circle except the most intuitive.
for the purpose of us being open, honest and supportive for one another… if it feels right. How do you manage this and rein it in? how did you move forwards… what advice would you give?
When all form of control and certainty leaves us and overwhelm sneaks up; we often subconsciously start to control in other areas. It is human nature.
With practice we can become better to catch ourselves, laugh it off with ‘here I go again’ and quickly shift focus to exploring, learning and growing more positive life skills and strategies.
Me? I am not ashamed to say that I did have my struggles (in the past). It makes me real and helps me to understand other people’s struggles and obsessions and quirks. Sometimes I forget about it all as I have pushed it all back into the past; I tend to forget the level of anxiety that lived with me permanently, and the control and neurosis. It was, I realise now, all a coping skill. I guess it good to forget but I don’t want to either so that I know how it feels for others.
So how did I manage to recover from a serious eating disorder and hours and hours of forced exercise?… I just fought and looked forward to knowing a place of peace had to be at the end of the desire to be better balanced and healthy. I made small change after change to pull things into better balance; I wrote a journal and in it listed all my dreams for the life that I wanted…. all these little dreams, goals and changes add up, they all start to make a difference.
Please know that it is possible to get to a better place if you want to and set that intention and keep reminding yourself of why it matters and that you can. Don’t be too hard on yourself it can take time; and it is a journey and you can and are doing it.
Never quit on yourself; the breakthrough may be just around the corner.
Here are some tips based on what I find to be helpful when I start to self-judge and self-sabotage.
Here are a few recent video blogs for you to listen to that I urge you to spend some time with if you have been “feeling it” lately.
Also I went on to discuss various grounding techniques that you may find helpful. Not all will resonate; the point is to try things and see what works for us. For me nature, movement and spending time with my dog Trinity all work. I also meditate most days and keep crystals everywhere in my life! This article written previously may also provide ideas to play with: https://andrea-cullen.com/2014/11/28/how-to-get-into-your-zen/
I am feeling, my body screams.
My stomach is in knots and my head is flying into space.
My chest feels pressed on;
I cannot think straight.
Everything is buzzing in an energy moving at me,
Waves and waves of energy and information in an invisible thread pulling me into the centre of your universe.
And you don’t even know that I feel you.
I feel your heart and its burden,
Your pain and its fear.
Your beauty and your kindness and your still silent soul waiting to be heard.
Your story invades my body;
and all I want is for you to hear it too.
I feel both hungry, empty, full and nauseous.
So many feeling crammed into a small tiny body.
I feel huge, yet invisible;
I don’t even feel like I am fully here.
And then I slow it all down once more.
Just stop and listen the universe reminds me.
And I do; I embrace all that is surrounding me in guidance and support.
An infinite flow of love, energy, healing and something more that no one can accurately label because it means something different for us all.
The birds sing of strength,
The trees dance with an energy that lifts my heart,
The river flows through my being with life force.
My feet feel the buzz of life underneath me.
All is well; I am strong. As strong as honesty can be.
I have answers, but no one wants to ask.
I love big; yet I am surrounded by an angry world.
People want you to help; but they push you away.
People are tired, but they wont reach out for my energy.
I am here, I will show up…. I will be there…
Sending you lots of love,
Please reach out if you are finding it tough; the answers will come if you create the space,
The Spring winds announces themselves
with whispers, groans, and creaks through the tall trees.
Shaking out the last dead leaves of Winter;
making way for rebirth.
Stand outside a moment, in the dark night.
The wind is calling.
Ushering urgent messages into your core,
as quickly as she blasts winter cobwebs away.
Allow yourself to be shaken out,
for the roots always hold firm in the spring.
Allow her bitter cold gusts pierce the very core of your heart,
like jump leads – a call to action.
Spring is here she bellows across the fields.
Her force sees no obstacle too great,
as she urges waves to rise high and topple,
A great power carrying endless potential.
The wind announces her formless self through every thing of form.
Her invisible path leaves a trail of dancing trees.
She is birthed from difference, yet she sees none.
Stand outside in the wind she calls…..
“Stand outside in the wind,
I bring the message of hope.
I carry the promise of sunbeams and longer days,
And I whisper in your ear come out and play“.
“Winter is done.”
In the midst of bleak grey stormy skies new life announces itself.
Beautiful, inspiring; the perpetual cycle of life.
Life returns to the landscape, the light returns to the skies, the birdsong is vibrant as the new day starts and with it the Irish wake from their hibernation and the weary dredge through winter.
Spring infuses even the heaviest heart if you open your eyes to the rebirth everywhere.
This article by Adam Winson brought my attention to the writings of George Orwell: Spring is here, and they can’t stop you enjoying it
“Spring is here, even in London, and they can’t stop you enjoying it. This is a satisfying reflection. How many a time have I stood watching the toads mating, or a pair of hares having a boxing match in the young corn, and thought of all the important persons who would stop me enjoying this if they could. But luckily they can’t. So long as you are not actually ill, hungry, frightened or immured in a prison or a holiday camp, Spring is still Spring. The atom bombs are piling up in the factories, the police are prowling through the cities, the lies are streaming from the loudspeakers, but the earth is still going round the sun, and neither the dictators nor the bureaucrats, deeply as they disapprove of the process, are able to prevent it.” George Orwell 1946