Anxiety in the Christmas frenzy

Anxious?

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Our world is a very “feeling it big” place right now. Every time I get into the car or go to a shop or anywhere there are people I can barely breathe with the anxiety I’m feeling. Try as I might even I am struggling to ground myself when I sense the anxiety of the world; my head is exploding, I am on edge and I cannot sleep that well.

There is no doubt a lot going on between Christmas shopping mayhem, Syria, assassinations, plane hijackings, and terrorism attacks. It feels wrong to write them all in the same sentence but the truth is we feel them all, and it is impossible to untangle what we sense when we are bombarded by them all.

I do enough in my day to manage these moments; my me time, my time with my love, getting outdoors for a run or getting a good swim or bike session in, taking a long bath, allowing myself to take a moment of peace in the shower, being totally present with my clients, writing my journal or making my tree and flower essence is sufficient in my day to make the more uncomfortable moments manageable.

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Years ago I would have really struggled with this. Anxiety feels awful. My brain is scatty, my heart is racing, I cannot ground myself. I completely empathize with you if you are feeling anxious.

Sleep is off for many of you, it’s like the world is spinning on its pillow worrying. Little things like financial pressure or worry about the presents and things to do fills people’s heads – we are all connected and the more sensitive of you will feel it.

Anger, frustration, and fatigue are all taken out on others and the roads are like the battle ground. Even driving where normally I find peace and quiet in a silent commute is now thick with anxiety as I drive towards places where there are people.

Firstly…these are first world problems.

Get a bit of perspective. It’s not all about us. How lucky we are to have these problems!

Secondly consider that the anxiety may not be yours.

You may be feeling the frenzy, the pressures or simply the volumes of people.

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Similarly things the other side of our reality like Syria, Germany, Russia and more are hitting our senses somehow in the invisible ( we can just feel it) and via the media outlets. Fear, anger, separation….and devastation fill our world.

What to do? Own it. Take responsibility for the anxiety. Shift your perspective, have compassion for people, avoid the peak rush hours, take breaks, get into a quiet space, ask what’s urgent and what’s not. Don’t lash out and pass your anxiety onto others especially family, eat well and don’t miss meals, watch your coffee and alcohol intake. Magnesium can help, a bath or shower also. I make plant and tree essences to provide support. Many other strategies like aromatherapy and music help too.

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Lastly create balance….where can you do good? Or infuse a smile and happiness into the world. If you are feeling it, it’s because you can somewhat change it.

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Know that you are in charge of this.

Breathe.

Be grateful. Look outside yourself…

Love you all. Here to chat if you need.

Andrea

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PS this is the beautiful tree overlooking the stone circles at Grange

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Let the universe speak; let peace into your heart

The universe is always knocking on the door to your heart; she speaks with words that convey a hidden and symbolic message to only you. The universe speaks your language in nature, animals, birds and bees, the lyrics of music, signposts, numbers, through strangers and in our deepest dreams and intuitions.

There is always something more out there trying to reach you and in the busyness of life we often miss this.

YET, we pay for classes, read books, follow gurus, listen to videos and pay exorbitant amounts to others for what we already have within.

To find peace, you must let it in.
To have wisdom, you must first listen.
To know your answers, you must be still.
To grow you must simply be here in the now; aware and open to the universes lessons.

To find that place; you must simply open your senses.

The truth comes to those who seek, in the most beautiful, fantastical and amazing of ways. All you must do is allow……….
It’s not always quite that simple because we tend to give up a fight. Our minds don’t believe in simple.

I pondered many of these thoughts as I ran today. I ran up the steep hills from Kona seashore onto the highways. No people, just a hill in my face and my legs doing the work. This always takes me to the place of listening. When you are working up a hill your head shuts up rather promptly.

I noticed the breeze, the stillness, the morning sun above Hualalai as she broke through the clouds and with it brought her searing heat; I noticed the flowers, the birds, the trees and their massive Hawaiin leaves, the insects and all that spoke.

I thought about what peace means:

Peace.
In the letting go we expect peace to be where there is nothing; a place of calm empty still.

But peace is where there is everything. It is the space where we see and notice all things within and without.

It’s like life slows down into slow motion in this space and we notice our breath and being alive; the ground and our connection with it; the wind, flowers, trees, people and their presence; every detail of our surroundings and our fleeting thoughts.

In this space we see the symbolism and understand the meaning in everything; our present here and now.

Peace is where we are connected to all – it is not a place of nothing but a space of heightened awareness and everything……..

I found peace this morning on my run; and in my space the universe invited herself in with the biggest bumble bee I have ever seen and he just stayed a foot in front of my face for about ten minutes buzzing about trying to get my attention as I sat on the beach after my run. And soon after this a busy ant carrying the equivalent of a house or something large across the sands; it looked like hard work made appear effortlessly simple.

For many of you these symbols may seem mad; to me they speak volumes. You will know your symbols.

Open your eyes and allow the universe speak to your heart…

Much love,
Andrea

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Write the next chapter…

 

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Do you want your story to stop with the hardship and the excuses and the ‘poor me story’ or to move forward into the chapters detailing the triumph of taking action, the story of trying and then doing, achieving and then succeeding?

We all carry the potential for success, in every part of our lives: work, love, health, relationships, sport, finances, and our own silent personal journey.
Everyone of us has the potential for success….

Life at every corner will present you will opportunities to take a new direction and create something better or will show you the old direction that if you choose, will validate where you wish to stay stuck. For example a change in direction may provide you with the opportunity to eat better and start exercising OR to stay stuck in your illness telling everyone why you cannot eat better or start moving more.

Do you want to live a story explaining why you didn’t?
Or how you did?

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You have a choice every day to leave pain behind, to grow through hardship, to expand past negativity and to breathe through fears into a new way of living and being. One where fears no longer bully you into being less than you know deep down you can be.

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Breathe in the NOW and let go

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Hi Folks,

I wanted to reach out today and say hello with a short message from Hawaii. I sat on Honl’s beach off Ali’i drive this morning for as many hours as it took me to start to let go; and feel my way back into the subtle energies of the world. Here was my beautiful view, stunning eh?

I hope that in my words, there are a many loving nudges for you to accept into your heart space.

Breathe in the Now and let go.

 

We all control things in life. No matter how far we think we may have journeyed along the path; there is always some more letting go to be done. Maybe allow it to be a fascinating journey into yourself; one with many ah-ha and amusing moments, as well as tears of release mingled into wanting to fight or resist what is for us.

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The most beautifully written piece about the peace of healing

This article is one of the most beautiful pieces that I have yet read detailing the healing voyage. I don’t need to clutter this with any words that detract from its perfection.

Enjoy how these words feel, and integrate them into your being: The Midwives of Integration written by MATT LICATA

“Never, ever give up on love. It will never, ever give up on you.”

Much love,

Andrea

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Change is always for the better…..

What do you see when presented with change?

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Loss or opportunity?
Do you fear or flow?
Resist or surrender?
Freeze or play your cards?

Life isn’t supposed to stay the same.
The rivers of time alter their course often;
And the greater our ability to rise to the opportunities of change, then the richer our life experience becomes.

It is human nature to feel more comfortable in certainty.
But certainty will eventually feel boring, stuck, and lacking.
Deep down we crave growth, excitement, challenge and yes CHANGE.

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Let go and trust that there is a greater force filling your sails through these cross-winds of change.

Trust and it may just be the greatest adventure!

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When changes presents and it feels like a cloud of fear paralyzing your heart; take a moment to sit back, take some distance and a new perspective and find the silver lining.

Love,
Andrea

 

So I won a race

This is a blog to help the sensitive souls that are also awesome athletes.

I won a race this weekend; it was totally unexpected. I even had to have to two people check the race results as I couldn’t quite believe it. This was my second time completing a half iron-man distance and I feckin’ won the race; wow. I don’t feel that I can really claim this because due to fog and weather conditions the swim was cancelled just as we were being briefed and ready to go and the resulting race was a 7 km run, 96 km bike and 7 km run loop ran twice to make the correct distance. The loops on my Garmin were on the short side, a bit disappointing because I like perfect numbers and 6.75 x 3 does not a half marathon make LOL; so in ways I am trying to compute what all this winning means.

The last time I was really good at winning something was anorexia in my youth and a drive to over-exercise that persisted into my early thirties. I made myself invisible in life and the only winning was the beating myself up in my head. Trust me the exercise was no preparation for this sort of stuff; it was just endless hours of cardio and weight training to burn every ounce of energy out of my body and a voice that wasn’t satisfied until this mission was accomplished. It probably did make me a phenomenal fat burner if I want to take something good out of it. This sort of strategy to cope with life is very common in sensitive persons; and one that can be turned around. There is so much more to life than internalizing your sensitivity; it is so very worth it to embrace a new way of doing things.

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This isn’t the story of a victim, or even a victor. Nothing really matters as much as what we do right now and I just wanted to share some words of support for the sensitive souls that also have a drive to live life to the full and have a burning desire to experience it all. In other words get out there and make impossible dreams come true.

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Be real in a world of fakes

A real person doesn’t need an identity,
Real love doesn’t need measuring,
Real arguments don’t need a winner,
Real strength doesn’t need validation,
Real beauty doesn’t need covering up,
A real diet doesn’t need a name,
Real friendships don’t question who you are,
Real self belief doesn’t need noticing,
Real appreciation is a daily gratitude,
Real truth isnt sugar-coated,
Real people don’t twist things or manipulate,
Real connection doesn’t have walls,

 

Real people fuck-up daily on all the above and more….
Real people in their lives accept real other people:-)

 

Be real…. just be real…
In a world of fakes; bare your soul.

In a world of competition and one upmanship do things for YOU;
For pure and utter joy.

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The Empath Paradox

The empath’s paradox: how we feel everything and yet often know nothing.

It can be very hard for loved ones to understand us; and yet feeling understood is the glue to our trust in all relationships.

Unless you have been a very fortunate highly sensitive child you more than likely were raised in a family that quite simply weren’t equipped to understand or encourage your sensitivity. In a world of feeling people, people’s emotions, and world events you more than likely learned that if you were sensing everything and the world was still spinning then something was wrong with you.

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Doubts, insecurities, and feeling like the weirdo that could never quite match up to  the expectations of people and life became part of your being. If someone felt unhappy, angry, frustrated, or distant to you then the only logical conclusion could have been that it was you.

Unless you learnt what the soup of emotions meant as a child you more than likely internalized them all into part of your identity instead of learning what was and wasn’t ‘yours’.

Time marches on and life takes spins and turns and if you are fortunate you start to learn what this high sensitivity or being empathic means.

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