Love with abandon…


“Love in your mind produces love in your life. This is the meaning of Heaven.”
― Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love

There is no remedy for love but to love more.”
 – Henry David Thoreau

When it comes to love why is it that moving fast and certainty creates doubt in others? People say thread cautiously, prepare for the worst, keep your eyes open; don’t jump in too fast. ….

And yet if you were offered the job of a lifetime the other side of the planet they would say leap; leap far fast.

Funny that because you are far more likely to get chewed up and spat out by a big multinational than a person who just wants to care for you…

One thing is certain when it comes to making choices of the heart life certainly will show up your doubts when you allow the negatives to fester.

So is it wrong to jump in?
Or is jumping in the only way that you can get in?

Do you dip your toes in tentatively like you are doing a trial run; watching out for warning signs and avoiding feeling too much, loving too much, sharing or caring too much? Or do you just launch in because your gut says “jump in, that there is something about this person. I cannot promise if it is your forever person or your lesson person, but I say jump in because there is a connection here and no one died from loving, laughing, feeling, or experiencing ‘too much’.”


I say jump into the fast technicolour lane and just experience it for what it is. Decide to leave the past and fears behind, accept that they may crop up now and again as emotions for healing, and start learning to draw out the best in someone rather than searching for the worst. You will always find what you search for – eventually. You will always prove your subconscious suspicion theories – eventually.

So why not seek to prove the following:

You are pure love; loving and allowing love feels wondrous.

Every journey is the experience and not the destination.

You are perfect as you are – let your light shine; smile long, laugh hard and play like you will be young forever. You know you are worthy of love and you know that you are a very special unique person. When you accept this and fly free from ridiculous beliefs about not being good enough you will attract the same awesomeness in a mate.

When you focus on your strengths, you learn to see the same in others.

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We are all vulnerable and insecure; we all crave love and connection. Accept that you will not be strong all the time on all days – nor will they. It is ok to have a needy day – just don’t slip into it every day.

There is a balance of independence and togetherness; it is a juggling act that you may as well enjoy playing.

Learn that two energies combine to create more – it is not about giving and taking more so being and allowing.

Power struggles for right and wrong, control and domination are ego battles and the source of many a struggle – let go and trust.

When you resist something it doesn’t feel good in your body. When you feel this discomfort what is it that you are resisting? What are you disallowing? Are you blocking your feelings? Why? Has your head gone into future worry and past hurts and negative experiences? Do your best to swim with the tide 🙂

Everyone has a past; that may have at times created hurt and walls.

All wounds heal; kiss their scars.
All walls can fall even if it is only at the rate of one brick per day; support their journey.
Love heals everything…..eventually.

Finally learn that there are good people out there. Good men and women do exist! Ones that want to love, protect and care for you. Ones that don’t want something in return for your love. Ones that don’t seek to control you or own you, change you or use you. Men and women that cherish and nourish all that you are and are comfortable to allow your gifts and all that you are to shine.


“What if you only had today?”

“What if you only had this moment?”

“We are all travelling through time together.
Everyday of our lives all we can do is do our best
To relish this remarkable ride”

Quote taken from the movie ‘About Time’.

I say jump in; love is eternal so why resist it? Don’t hold back, don’t wall up, don’t worry what others think. The past can be released in an instant and you may choose to hold on, or to let go.

What if you chose to let go?

“I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.”
Marilyn Monroe

“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you.

When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful.

There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are.

The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face.

In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you.

You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon.

You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible.

You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile.

Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.”
Bob Marley

You are so dearly loved




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